Change is coming: an open letter to our community

To our clients, community, and stakeholders:

We recognize and acknowledge that we have made a mistake. It has been brought to our attention that our business name, Modern Tribe Counseling, is not ok. We could sit here and explain how we chose it, what it represents, what our experience as business owners are as it relates to the name, but that is the exact opposite of the behavior we believe is productive when being called in to reflect on our choices and how they impact others, especially those who have been marginalized and oppressed.

Instead we apologize for our use of the word tribe when naming our business. We acknowledge that use of this word by business owners who are white with no lineage to tribal nations from any land, regardless of the lineage, ethnicity or race of our team members, is a form of appropriation. We are grateful to the individuals who called us in and to those black and indigenous members of our shared communities who consensually engaged us in discussion, providing emotional labor and directing us towards resources, assisting us to understand the impact the use of this word has on others.

Our next step is to begin the process of changing the business name. As you can imagine this is no small undertaking but we are committed to complete this task in the tightest timeline possible. Our primary goals for this process are to ensure that none of the costs associated with this process impact our clients and that the name we choose accurately reflects our mission statement: To promote access to quality behavioral healthcare for individuals who identify as part of a gender, sexuality or relationship structure minority.

We believe transparency is key when developing or regaining trust so as we achieve steps in the business plan we will keep you posted on our blog. Updates will be posted to our Facebook, Instagram and blog page on our website. We hope you will follow along and help support as we go through this process.

We know this action to be the right action and we will move as swiftly as possible. We ask our BIPOC friends and supporters for your patience and our white friends and supporters to help spread the word about the changes we are making so that the business name transition is as smooth as possible. As many of you know, in this business word of mouth is everything and Modern Tribe Counseling as become familiar to many, not only in Georgia but around the nation, as a place that provides quality behavioral health care to: All identities. All genders. All relationships. All people.

We hope you will continue to support us and help our business grow so that we can help others.

Signed,

Nickie Fuentes, MS LPC, LMHC, CPCS, NCC, CCMHC

Kelley Bennett


February 28th is Metamour Day

February 28th is Metamour Day

Our friends at National Coalition for Sexual Freedom have declared that February 28th is Metamour Day. This is a day where we have an opportunity to recognize, honor and celebrate our metamour(s). In poly-amorous relationships, a metamour is the partner of one’s partner where there is no shared romantic experience.  Metamours play an important role within the relationship structure. Often this person serves as an extension of the relationship and may fill the role of friend, confidant, co-parent, or another significantly role. This role can also be complicated by feelings surrounding the relationship itself. In most cases your partner chooses their partner, your metamour. This choice can result in a wide range of feelings from pleasure and joy to jealousy and confusion. Often, these feelings can be related to use of the resources available in the relationship structure, time, money, or emotional capacity and availability. Other times the feelings can be attributed to complimentary or conflicting values or communication styles. Sometimes we experience compersion, sometimes pain, sometimes both occur simultaneously. With hard work, open communication, balance and honesty the relationship structure can thrive, working on clear roles and boundaries for all members of the relationship, partners and metamours alike.

Here are some tips for how to care for your metamour:

  • Support your partner’s other relationship(s)

  • Communicate and maintain clear boundaries

  • Express yourself honestly

  • Allow space for values and opinions that may differ from yours

  • Communicate your emotions and needs

  • Be open to the communication and needs of others in the relationship structure

  • Work from a place of empathy and compassion, treating people with kindness often results in more desirable outcomes

  • Have clear agreements that are living and breathing documents open to review and renegotiation as relationships develop

  • When your agreements allow for it, spend quality time with your metamour without your partner

  • Celebrate successes within all areas of the relationship structure

  • Recognize your metamour with tokens of appreciation (cards. flowers, gifts, etc)

While it may not always be easy to share the person you love with another person, taking the time to recognize and celebrate the joy that person brings your partner can enhance your relationship and promote intimacy.

 

Are you and your partner(s) struggling to develop relationship agreements that work for you? Consider attending Relationship Agreements: an Overview or our intensive series with interactive activities and homework Developing your Relationship Agreements: Intensive Series.

Are you a clinician who needs more information on consensual non-monogamy, including polyamory? Consider signing up for continuing education covering this topic area: Consensual Non-monogamy for Clinicians.

Nickie Fuentes, MS LPC, LMHC, NCC, CCMHC works with gender, sexuality and relationship structure minorities at Modern Tribe Counseling, located in Chamblee, GA.  

Art Therapy Group for Trauma Survivors

Have you been looking for new ways to manage life after a traumatic experience? Are you a survivor of trauma and wanting to learn how to thrive in life? Starting this month, Karen Corry, LAPC, ATR-P, NCC will be leading a 10 week art therapy trauma group for adult survivors. This group is ideal for those who are creatively inclined and who want to push themselves therapeutically in new ways.

The intention of this group is to support adult survivors of trauma through engaging in creative interventions, processing with others safely, and by developing artistic coping skills to implement in daily living. Group members will be encouraged to create art about the impact trauma has had on identity, self-esteem, relationships, communication, and the ability to cope. The group’s focus will be on the process of creating art, the emotions that emerge during the journey, and the individual’s interpretation of the art. There is no artistic skill or experience required, as all interventions will be guided, and materials demonstrated.

Group members can expect to express themselves through: using collage and mixed media, altering books, visual journaling, guided imagery and painting, mindful practices, the creation of masks, and exploring the use of drawing and writing in healing.

This group is affirming of, embracing of, and a safe place for individuals of all sexual identities, gender identities, relationship structures, and lifestyles.

For more information or to schedule your assessment, email Karen Corry at kcorry@moderntribecounseling.com or call 678-744-6750. Karen is also currently accepting new individual clients and those seeking relationship counseling.